Jeffrey was the first. It was 1994 and we had just wrapped the seventh and final season of Star Trek and I said to my agent, ‘Find me a job. I don’t care what i is but let it be as far removed from science fiction and outer space as possible!’ And very shortly he rang me and said, ‘I’e got it! There’s a move they’re making called Jeffrey…’ I had seen Paul Rudnick’s wonderful play here in New York and I met with the director. I think that was my first time playing an openly gay character and I enjoyed it immensely. Having led a life in the theater, I had been in the company of homosexual men and women from [the time I was] a teenager. It was familiar and completely normal. When we were prepping for the movie, the production designer said he wanted to have lots of photographs around Sterling’s apartment — of them on holiday and with friends and so forth — so how would you feel if you and Bryan [Batt] and Steve Weber [who played Jeffrey] go off and walk around the West Village. It was a Saturday afternoon during a hot summer, so without quite knowing exactly where he was with his camera we spent a couple of hours just hanging out and it was the loveliest experience. Liberating. And intimate. And fun.”
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Is George W. Bush the world’s biggest hypocrite or just complete devoid of any sense of shame? It’s not a rherorical question. Now we are learning that Bush not only wanted to attend the wedding of a lesbian couple who are friends of the family. He actually offered to officiate.
Yes, the same George W. Bush who rode to re-election in 2004 on a campaign that whipped conservative evangelicals into a frenzy about the same-sex marriage threat wanted to preside at a same-sex wedding.
In the end, Bush did not officiate or even attend the wedding. But it’s not as if he had a sudden outburst of principle or a change of heart. He had a scheduling conflict. (No word if he asked Antonin Scalia to sub for him.)
The news was buried as a throwaway remark in a Boston Globe story about the Jeb Bush compound in Maine. The story noted that when in Kennebunkport, Jeb visits the “cozy general store owned by Bonnie Clement and her wife, Helen Thorgalsen.” Then, almost as an afterthought, reporter Matt Viser adds: “(George H.W. Bush made international headlines when he attended their wedding in 2013; George W. Bush offered to perform the ceremony but had a scheduling conflict).”
Contacted by the Washington Blade for more details, Viser said, “I’ll pretty much let the piece speak for itself on this one.”
And what does the piece say? Well, it could be saying a few things. It could be saying that Bush has changed his opinion, much like the rest of America. Or it could by saying that Bush says one thing publicly and does another thing privately. Or perhaps that Bush is perfectly willing to sell out his personal beliefs for political gain.
The first options seems the least likely. Or if it is true, Bush doesn’t have the courage to say so. When his dad attended the wedding, reporters asked for a comment from W. What they got from his spokesman was “Thanks for checking, but no comment.”
Which leaves options two and three. Draw your own conclusions.
Ironically, at this point, nothing can harm W. But his brother Jeb is another story. Conservatives in the Republican party are already distrustful of Jeb and his presidential aspirations. He’s already been using the media to send some mixed signals about marriage: first that he’s not a hard-liner, and then that he is.
The news that brother George was willing to officiate at a same-sex wedding will only confirm conservatives’ belief that the whole family is a bunch of Republicans-in-name-only.
It goes to show that even an innocuous story about a seaside getaway can be a political landmine waiting to go off.
Even after all these years of accepting and understanding my sexuality, I still feel completely misunderstood, and what scares me about this is that I don't feel that I ever will be understood.
Here I was thinking that coming out of the closet would make me feel like a freer individual, but what I've realized is that it has only made me feel more alone.
Those I used to love devotedly, still held fear in their heart, not able to accept their sexuality. So, as I progressed in my acceptance, they slowly backed away, leaving me feeling all by myself again.
There's no way for me to hop back into discretion; that was a tough spot to leave already, and I don't want to go back in order to feel loved and appreciated.
I am still hurting, and I just want all this hurt, anger, and sadness to go away. I don't feel like I'm enough to anyone, and I wonder if I ever will be.
Broken is the best way to describe how I've been feeling for quite sometime, and although others msy revel in their contentment, as they accept their closeted/discreet lifestyle, I am forever on the outside looking in, and it's not fair at all. Why can't I win?
I loved so hard, and still, nothing. It's a cruel joke, and I'm tired. I'm so fucking tired.
Disappointments left and right, and I continue to feel like an outcast among outcasts.
I used to fear dying young. Now, I fear that I will never be happy or feel fulfilled in love or in life.
Famous math teacher/model Pietro Boselli.
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— Nine seasons of America’s Got Talent down, and, to be honest, we’re still not convinced. The tenth season premieres Tuesday at 8 p.m. Eastern NBC with returning judges Mel B., Heidi Klum, Howard Stern and Howie Mandell.r
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— Hunky survivalist Bear Grylls takes a break from his busy schedule bro-ing out with the likes of Zac Efron and Jake Gyllenhaal to host a new series on NBC. The Island, premiering tonight at 10 p.m. Eastern, features a gay contestant, Trey. Get to know him in the video clip, above.r
— We are in love with The Prancing Elites. The fabulous dance troupe is as wildly entertaining as its members are talented. Catch a new episode Wednesday at 10 p.m. Eastern on Oxygen.r
— Louis C.K. already shepherded SNL to its season finale, now it’s time for the fifth season of his series, Louie, to say goodbye. Thursday’s finale, at 10:30 p.m. Eastern on FX, will be followed by his new standup special.r
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What are you watching this week?
Director: Silvia Chiogna
Featuring: L. Cavaliero, Ocean, Theresa, Silvia Chiogna
Germany | 2013 | 70 min
Silvia Chiogna follows a group of German queers who oppose society’s gender segregation and preconceived gender rules dictated by the type of genitals one has. We meet people whose binary gender perceptions do not tolerate labels and who fight for the idea of a fluid gender. We get to experience Silvia challenge gender norms in a scene that personifies the society’s approach to men in dresses.
Via Viviscal: I doubt he is on it, but I love his full hair and barely controlled brows ... grrr.
With thanks to Tony Guadagnino for his hard work on the photos: Every few days, I'll post an old 1980 and earlier Match Game puzzle. Try to guess the three answers, but keep the time frame and the frame of mind of the people they likely polled when guessing.
I have to take advantage of this fleeting moment in time when the media is helping to convince people that dad bods are where it's at!
As one-time Advocate cover man and gay vet Eric Alva reminds us, we have made great strides in the military, but the mission is not yet accomplished.
Happy Memorial Day. Remembering my grandfather, who served and had many life-altering experiences in World War II.
Gotta give it up to him—for a child molester, he definitely has a good sense of humor about it ...
A great shot of the actor best known as the human b'day gift from the movie version of The Boys in the Band (1970), in which he recreated his stage performance. He died of AIDS in 1986. Thanks to Michael Michaud for the shot.