February 28th will be our 7 year anniversary. Nothing will ever be able to give me what he has given me in this life.
My perfect bae and me <3
As we reported back in May, the Census Bureau has officially amended its definition of "families" to include married, same-sex couples.r
The Charlotte Observer reports:r
In prior years, the U.S. Census Bureau counted such couples as “unmarried partners,” even if they were legally married. But now, starting with the new annual American Community Survey, they are in among the family totals. [...]r
Same-sex couples who live together but are not married are still counted as “unmarried partners,” the same designation for unmarried opposite-sex couples. The Census Bureau has counted same-sex couples since 1990.r
The Washington Post added back in May:r
Because of the large disparity between the number of gay and straight married households, combining the two is not expected to have a significant effect on the statistics that scholars and planners use to analyze how families are changing. Its significance is largely symbolic of the growing acceptance of gays in American society.
My boyfriend of officially 3 months. We’ve been talking long distance for over a year, but recently made it official. After almost a year of texts, face time and skype sessions I got to meet the love of my life. It was only for a week, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. He’s coming to see me in November for thanksgiving. Super excited!
New to tumblr! My New Years kiss was so amazing! #blessed #futurehusband
This is me and my boyfriend(I’m on the left) this guy means the world to me!! He’s my everything when I wake up And when I go to sleep, I love him so much!!!! I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with this man ????????????????????????
By now I'm sure you've heard about Minnesota Vikings player Adrian Peterson being indicted on charges of injury to a child for hitting his four-year-old son with a tree--which, if you're black and/or you grew up in the South, likely translates to "he got a whoopin' with a switch."
Many an op-ed has been written about how Peterson's arrest brings up topics of race, parenting, class, culture and so on--just as Ray Rice's domestic violence has brought issues surrounding violence against women to the surface--and many more are likely to be committed to keyboard as this plays out. That said, I have few thoughts on the matter:
--Do I believe Adrian Peterson is a child abuser? No. Not because I believe what he did was right--judging from the photos TMZ has unearthed, this went way beyond a pop on the leg--because I don't believe his intent was to abuse and inflict harm on his child. Of course, he did inflict harm, and he knew by hitting his son he would inflict harm. But if his behavior both, private and public, is to be believed--he told his son's mother about the incident when it happened, expressed remorse, has cooperated with police and stated he loves his son--his intent was to dole out discipline, not abuse. I believe all of this should be taken into account as the case moves forward.
--That said, I don't agree with spanking or whipping a child. I got spanked as a kid, fortunately not with a switch. My parents never went as far as Anderson, but like him, they believed what they were doing was right and it was how their parents raised them. My parents were and never have been abusive; however, meeting the business end of a belt on my backside was not what made me change my behavior. It was the explanation of why what I did was wrong afterwards that did. I don't plan on having kids, but if I did, I'd cut out the middle man (i.e. the whipping) and go straight to the explanation and a non-violent punishment. Giving a child an concrete understanding of how their actions effect others is in the long run better than tears, fear and possibly a half-decent stand up comedy routine. And as we've all probably witnessed, sometimes the child doesn't get any of the former, just a warning they'll get something to cry about. Which leads to my third point:
--Habitually using any form of punishment, be it timeouts or whippings, is not and should never be a substitute for actually talking to and raising your damn child. Telling a child to "go get a switch (I overheard one white guy at the gym say his mother would sometimes let his sister pick the switch he got hit with--how's that for building sibling bonds...)" or sending them to their room for every infraction is not parenting. It is not an act of love. It is an act of abuse, one that creates emotional cripples instead of stable, functioning adults.
What do you think?
Will be you be watching Bey and Jay's On The Run HBO special tonight?
my love, Bao, who is in him home country of Vietnam while we apply for a fiancé visa.
Actor Ben Whishaw (Skyfall, Brideshead Revisited, Cloud Atlas) has been cast as the lead in London Spy - an upcoming BBC drama about a gay spy, Pinknews reports:
Dax Shepard sat down with Ellen earlier this week to chat about his newly released comedy-drama film This is Where I Leave You. While there, he also shared his deep and profound love for Brad Pitt - whose beauty seemingly transcends our mortal world.
"He is an angel," Shepard declared. "This is someone that has fallen from the stars and occasionally treats us to his image on these flickering pictures on the silver screen."