Here's a charming email from Joe Tynan aka Michael John aka MJBricksBike@aol.com, a right-wing gay guy who thinks myself and various other bloggers are somehow elitist, and because we are not xenophobes (as he has proudly claimed to be), that means we are inviting terrorists into NYC, which he feels he owns by virtue of living here.
I'm calling the cops on his—ironically—terroristic threat, but thought I'd post it here, too.
Oh, he thinks I'm anti-Irish (I guess that means self-loathing in my case). Anti-Irish. What century is this???
If anyone knows him, let me know, and I'll add more of his personal data to the report. Thanks.
This is sickening. It is completely reminiscent of when al-Qaeda blew up the Buddhas. It's revolting savagery.
My bf, Jeremy, on the left. Me, Kevin, on the right.
We are coming up on our 3 year anniversary. It’s so hard to believe just how fast time flies. Each day our bond grows stronger and stronger. He may be the one ;).
Beginning today Facebook users will be able to describe their gender using whatever kind of personal language they feel the most comfortable with. The move comes after an increased demand from the public for Facebook to allow people to choose from a wider array of gender descriptors in their “About Me” sections. Last year Facebook took a major step forward by expanding its list of selectable genders from three (male, female, or none) to over 50 terms including male to female, gender queer, and cisgender.r
“Facebook’s new free-form field for gender identity is a huge step forward for transgender, gender nonconforming and gender queer youth,” said GLSEN Executive Directorr
Dr. Eliza Byard, “The internet is an essential source of resources, support and community for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) youth, and one of its most important ‘living rooms’ now better reflects their reality and self-understanding."r
Speaking to Motherboard, Facebook engineer Ari Chivukula explained that the company deployed a special team focused specifically on buffing out the social network’s expanded gender settings. Moving forward users will be able to more finely customize their privacy settings to better control who sees their gender displayed on their profiles.
One of greater hurdles facing most pieces of tech these days is battery life. You’ve been there--out on the town, heading to a bar or friend’s place, only to realize that your phone is on the brink of death with little to no chance of making it through the rest of the night. What if, you’ve undoubtedly thought to yourself, there was a way that you could charge your devices on the go? What if there was a way to harness the kinetic energy of your body’s movement to charge your smart watch in the same way that you charge your everyday wristwatch?r
Soon there will be with the...provocatively named WankBand. As you might have surmised from its name the WankBand is a small wearable device that generates an electric charge while you’re...being vigorously celibate. As Caity Weaver points out writing for Gizmodo, it’s questionable just how much energy one might be able to produce while using their shake weights or mixing martinis. But then again, you’d be surprised what you can accomplish with a little bit of elbow grease and determination.r
Check out the first (totally legitimate and mostly SFW) ad for the WankBand AFTER THE JUMP...r
Here’s a cautionary tale whether you’re gay or straight, or as our protagonist seems to be, ehh a little bit of both.
We’ll have to travel back to a more rudimentary time, when logging onto the internet was a process that meant enduring some truly horrific noises, Nintendo 64 was the latest and greatest in gaming technology, and “Tumblr porn” would have meant you had a thing for acrobats. That last point, now that we mention it, doesn’t sound too bad.
The year is 1996, and Jimmy (ed. note: we don’t know his name so we’re going to call him Jimmy, just go with it) is a fresh-faced 20-year-old working a dead end job doing security at a gated community. It was the mid-’90s after all — if you didn’t have a McMansion, how would people know you were important?
Once night Jimmy got an innocent sounding offer — provide some additional security for a “house party,” make some extra scratch. Not a bad deal.
He quickly realized that the party was actually a cover for a professional porn shoot. What gave it away? Probably all the naked people having sex in front of cameras, but who’s to say really? Jimmy did his job without gawking too much, and was rewarded for his discretion with a regular gig.
And like a true Hollywood fairytale, a director plucked him from obscurity. “Hey kid!” we imagine him saying, cigar muffling his consonants. “You wanna be in the pictures?”
As Jimmy tells it:
“I was 20, looked about 14 under the right conditions, (clean shaven, and in right clothes). He asked if I did acting, told me if I was willing to give it a try he’d pay me $1000/day, I made $200/wk at my current job. He sweet talked me, $1000 to have sex with a beautiful woman. I had only had sex with two girls at that point, and I told him that. He seemed happy to know I was, ‘fresh.'”
Well he did it, though to his initial shock he’d been cast in a “mother/son” incest fantasy. Still, the money was right.
After four days of filming, the work suddenly stopped. But Jimmy had caught the bug (no, not chlamydia). He was hungry for more, and after a month of radio silence, contacted the director seeking more work.
“He said he didn’t have any more work like that but if I was willing to try something else he could get me some work. I said I’d try anything, I should have clarified that. He got me a job, a one day shoot on the other side of the state he said they were eager to work with me so I drove over there.”
It’s easy to laugh at this point; you know he meant gay porn, don’tcha Jimmy boy? But internet porn wasn’t what it is today. If you weren’t actively seeking something out, it was a lot easier to remain oblivious.
Jimmy arrived at the shoot and said no way. The director asked what it would take, and Jimmy came up with $5,000. “How about $2,500?” asked the director. They settled on $3,000. Jimmy wasn’t a great negotiator.
“I drove home $3000 richer, with a very sore asshole. After that I had work almost every weekend for the next year and a half. I finally stopped when I met a girl and figured she would never love a guy who fucked more guys than she had. I’ve never told my wife, I was her second and I have no idea how many people I’ve slept with, onscreen and off.
Next month is our 18th anniversary.”
Despite the obvious moral questions, he’s come away from the experience learning one solid life lesson that other straight guys would be wise to consider:
“I’m not gay, but gay sex can still feel really good. Prostate stimulation feels awesome.”
Now 19 years later, Jimmy doesn’t know if he should continue holding onto his secret as tightly as he must have clenched that first day bottoming. Perhaps that’s why he posted such an elaborate anonymous confession.
He worries (for good reason) that his wife, who he describes as “very reserved,” would freak out upon discovering that her husband had budding porn career.
Does Jimmy have a responsibility to tell her? He says he only quit the industry four months before his wedding. What happens if/when his wife finds out another way?
Or can the past really stay in the past?
“I don’t really see sex as gay and straight. There is just sex. At least my remorse has fueled a desire to make it up to my wife, even after all these years I still feel I owe her for what I did. I try to be the best husband I can.”
We met like hipsters. At a coffee shop. He sat down. Stared at me. And we’ve been goofing around ever since.
The Amina Profile
Director: Sophie Deraspe
Participants: Sandra Bagaria, Ali Abinimah, Fady Atallah, ?rem Köker
Canada | 2014 | 84 min
There was no indication that this typical online flirtation between two strangers would turn into a case of shocking international intrigue. For months, Sandra in Montreal and Amina, a Syrian-American, bond romantically and intellectually. Encouraged by Sandra, Amina launches a blog called “A Gay Girl in Damascus,” representing a marginalized voice in the Middle East on politics, religion, and sexuality. Rapidly garnering worldwide attention, Amina becomes something of a star blogger. But when Syria enters the Arab uprising of 2011, Sandra receives word that Amina has been kidnapped, and soon the search for Amina becomes a global concern and an even larger mystery to solve. Filmmaker Sophie Desraspe creates a hypersexualized tableau and follows Sandra from Montreal to Istanbul to Tel Aviv to Chicago to reconstruct and unravel a fascinating love story-cum-political thriller.
Conversion therapy, the practice where patients try to be "cured" of their homosexuality or "wrong" gender identification, has long since been discredited and deemed harmful. And yet, poor souls brought up in environments where they are taught to despise themselves still seek this treatment out. VICE has posted two parts of a three-part documentary on the world of conversion therapy through exclusive access to the Journey into Manhood program, and thus takes a different tone from the last time we mentioned Journey into Manhood when the reporter snuck in.r
One would expect the documentary to be enraging - and listening to NARTH-founder Joseph Nicolosi insist that everyone is naturally heterosexual certainly angries up the blood, as does every other lie that dribbles out of his mouth - but it's more tragic than anything. A bunch of men who have been lied to at every turn and have been taught to hate themselves come together to try, in their own unskilled and awkward way, to "fix" something that isn't broken and reclaim masculinity that they think they've lost. It's especially sad to hear some of the men talk about how they were bullied and abused and driven to the point of suicide...and still think that the problem is within them, not with the cruelty and hatred of others.r
It's a rough watch, but it is absolutely worth your while. You can find the first two parts of the documentary, totaling about 20 minutes runtime, AFTER THE JUMP...r
As we've previously reported, Texas State Rep. Cecil Bell, Jr. is not happy with the idea of gay marriage coming to his state and wants to move to punish any county clerks that issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples by revoking their pay via House Bill 623. Bell spoke at the Texas Faith and Family Day event in Austin on Tuesday, an event organized by grassroots campaigns like Texas Values, Texas Pastor's Council and Texas Right to Life. During his speech, he said:r
In Texas, our tax dollars cannot be used to recognize the issue or otherwise address marriage any other way than what's in the Texas constitution which is one man, one woman.r
I support traditional marriage, it's what I defended as attorney general. Marriage is an issue reserved to the states.r
At least until the Supreme Court rules otherwise.r
In a move of supremely malicious mockery, organizers celebrated Texas' 10-year ban on gay marriage by bringing wedding cake to the event.r
You can watch KVUE's news report on the event AFTER THE JUMP...rr
PAT ROBERTSON: Net neutrality is part of "socialist agenda" to "take control of everything"r
CHRISTINA AGUILERA: Revisits her SNL impression of Samantha from Sex and the City.r
WANDA SYKES: On unexpectedly coming out in public back in 2008r
CAPTAIN AMERICA: A new take on the iconic hero.r
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The days of taking Truvada once-a-day may soon be over.
Past research has claimed that daily use of PrEP can dramatically lower one’s chances of being infected with HIV. Now, two new studies support those claims, but one of the studies takes it a step further.
500 gay men in the U.K. participated in a study retest the effectiveness of taking the standard, once-a-day dose of PrEP. Researchers found this strategy lowered one’s risk for HIV infection by 86 percent.
400 gay men participated in second study jointly conduced in France and Canada and looked at what happened when PrEP was taken on a less regimented schedule. Rather than taking a pill everyday, they took two pills between 2 and 24 hours prior to having sex with another man, followed by another two pills 24 and 48 hours after sex. The second study found the exact same degree of protection — 86 percent — as the standard, once-a-day regime.
“These results are extremely exciting and show PrEP is highly effective at preventing HIV infection in the real world,” said Sheena McCormack, Professor of Clinical Epidemiology at the MRC Clinical Trials Unit at UCL, and Chief Investigator of the U.K. study. “Concerns that PrEP would not work so well in the real world were unfounded. These results show there is a need for PrEP, and offer hope of reversing the epidemic among men who have sex with men.”
But don’t get too excited yet, fellas.
In a statement released by the CDC, Dr. Jonathan Mermin said that it’s still too soon for people to completely abandon the once-a-day regimen, saying more research needs to be conducted.
Mermin noted that the new strategy was only tested on men who were having sex an average of 10 times per month with eight partners every two months, which means that some of them were taking as many as eight pills per week, exceeding the once-per-day dosage.
“Researchers do not yet know if this regimen will work among MSM who have sex less frequently and would therefore be taking PrEP less often,” Mermin said.
Still, the new results are encouraging.
“I am immensely pleased and overwhelmed, a little emotional even,” said study participant Stefan Laros. “[F]or the first time in 30 years I feel there is hope for people like me, who struggle with consistent condom use, but who want to protect themselves — and just as importantly — their sex partners against HIV infection.”