While speaking earlier this week at a Catholic conference called “Welcoming and Accompanying Our Brothers and Sisters with Same-Sex Attraction” which was aimed at offering gay and lesbian people “skills” to remain celibate, Riccardo compared gay sex to “cramming a piece of bagel in your ear.”
Riccardo was participating in a lecture called “HIV and Other Health Risks Associated with Men Who Have Sex With Men.” During the talk, he said that he’s counseled many junior high students over the years who often ask him why God hates gay people. His response has always been: Because gay sex is unnatural.
To help illustrate this point, he said he offers students the following analogy: “If I just rip open a bagel. I take it and I cram it in my ear. What would you say? That doesn’t go there! It’ll ruin your ear canal!”
Nah. We’d probably just look at you like you’re crazy. Kinda like we’re doing right now.
Riccardo went on to say that he has a family member with a lesbian daughter, and has advised her not to have sex with other women.
“The goal here isn’t going from being gay to being straight,” Riccardo said. “The goal here is going from not knowing Jesus to knowing Jesus.”
And, of course, to refrain from cramming bagels in your ears.
h/t: Gay Star News
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By Joanna Chiu
BEIJING, China — William and Andi, husband and wife of four years, hadn’t seen each other for months. Andi arrived at William’s apartment sweaty from a bicycle ride through the Beijing summer haze. William brought her some cold lemon water and handed her a towel. She said he should boil the water first because tap water isn’t clean, and teased him for having grown so muscular his legs looked as bulky as “chicken drum sticks.” He suggested tweaking her gym routine so that it would be easier to fit exercise into her schedule. Reclining on separate couches in William’s spacious living room, they chatted comfortably about work, family and mutual friends.
After several minutes of small talk, conversation quickly turns to whether they should reconsider having children. Andi is 33, which in China is considered old to be childless. William is 36 and works as a human resources manager at a large state-owned company. In addition to pleasing his parents, he thinks having a child would help him at work because his superiors would see him as a family man — and therefore, in the traditional mindset here, a better candidate for promotions. Andi, on the other hand, admits she has a personal desire to become a mother.
“Why should we have kids anyway?” Andi asks.
“To make our parents happy,” William says firmly.
“But where would we raise them? Would I have to move in with you? When would we tell them the truth?” Andi says, shaking her head.
Andi has thick, shoulder-length hair and wears flowing, colorful clothes. She works as a graphic designer and has lived in Beijing with her girlfriend for 10 years. William, meanwhile, has focused on building his career over finding a steady boyfriend. They are both Chinese citizens and, like most of my other interview subjects, chose to give only their English names for this article because they are not openly gay.
The two are in what China’s LGBT community has coined a “cooperative marriage” (“xinghun”), which is essentially a fake marriage between a gay man and a lesbian woman.
Homosexuality was classified as a mental illness in the country until 2001 and a crime until 1997. In a largely conservative society where everyone feels pressure to get married and gay men and lesbians still face serious discrimination, most LGBT people choose to lead double lives.
Out of an estimated 20 million gay men in the country, around 80 percent are in fake marriages, according to research from Qingdao University. Most marry straight spouses, often without first revealing their true sexual orientation to their partner.
But an increasing number of gay men and lesbians are choosing to marry each other. They believe this option is better because it isn’t hurtful to straight spouses and also gives them much more freedom to live open lives. Most cooperative marriage partners do not live with each other after the wedding. Instead, some maintain a shared home to host visiting relatives and others leave their belongings in each other’s apartments to make it appear as if they are co-habitating.
“When we go home to visit my parents, I think they are suspicious,” Andi says. “My mom once remarked to me that I don’t seem very close to William. But she didn’t say anything more. I think they would rather ignore the possibility that the marriage isn’t real.”
In the past, gays and lesbians struggled to connect with each other to arrange fake marriages. While the proliferation of online “matchmaking” forums in the early 2000s has made connecting easier, finalizing a cooperative marriage can still take years of effort, with many potential partnerships falling through because couples cannot agree on shared expectations.
“I tried several times to look for a gay husband, but they were all so demanding,” says Charlene, a Shanghai-based public relations executive.
“They wanted a pretty wife to bring to company parties and many expected me to contribute to the purchase of a shared apartment. One man even asked if I would get plastic surgery to widen my eyes!”
“There are many more people who want to have a cooperative marriage than those who are actually in these marriages,” says Stephanie Wang, a Beijing-based researcher and LGBT community organizer who interviewed 22 cooperative marriage partners for her University of Hong Kong postgraduate thesis in sociology.
In some of the bad cases, people desperate to end a cooperative marriage have “outed” their partner’s homosexual orientation to their spouse’s parents, according to Wang. Others have fought bitterly about issues such as shared expenses, property and whether to raise children, she says. Gender politics also play a role, with women often expecting men to shoulder more expenses.
Gay and lesbian spouses would have little legal recourse if one party failed to honor any agreement. Jing, a lesbian who runs an online forum for people in northern China searching for cooperative marriages, advises approaching it like a business deal.
“You wouldn’t start a business with someone you don’t know. Before making a decision to marry someone, even if it is a fake marriage, you should talk to the other person and agree on as many things as you can think of in advance,” Jing says.
“It is also important to choose someone who can become a friend and with whom you would be happy to have a life-long relationship. Otherwise it is very hard to make things work long term.”
William and Andi say they have not had the problems experienced by some of the more tumultuous couplings they’ve heard about.
Ten years ago Andi replied to a want-ad from William on an internet forum. It was a simple message: gay man in Beijing seeks a lesbian wife in the city. After talking online for several days they met in person at a KFC restaurant. They discovered they had similar expectations. Neither wanted to live together, and they agreed not to get a marriage certificate because they didn’t want to have legal obligations to one another — a common decision in cooperative marriages.
But now that they are debating whether to have a child, the couple is facing their most difficult negotiation yet.
“Tian a! [Oh god!],” Andi sighs, “It would be awful if our parents want to move to Beijing to help take care of the baby.”
“Let’s talk about the details later …” William says, as he busies himself finding spots in his already immaculate apartment to clean.
Andi points out that fake marriages do not take place only in gay communities. In China, some straight people also turn to fake marriages in order to have children. According to Chinese law, children born out of wedlock cannot obtain a household registration permit (“hukou”), which would deprive them of basic social services and educational opportunities.
Marriages between straight people who do not want to have typical romantic relationships for various reasons — because someone doesn’t want to have sex, for example, or needs a partner in order to raise children legally — are colloquially known as “sexless marriages” in China. There are no estimates on the number of “sexless marriages,” but one Chinese website that caters to straight people looking to enter into such unions claims that more than 200,000 people have registered for their matchmaking service and over 25,000 successful matches have been made so far.
The desire to have a child was the main reason why Jasmine, a heterosexual woman, decided to marry a man she didn’t love. After she turned 30, with her parents increasingly nagging her to marry, Jasmine agreed she was running out of time and married the next man she dated. She now lives in an apartment in central Beijing with her husband, their 3-year-old daughter and her in-laws.
“My life is all about my daughter,” Jasmine says.
Unlike William and Andi, Jasmine and her husband do not communicate well. She feels too ashamed to talk to friends about her situation.
In contrast, Andi says she feels optimistic about the challenges ahead.
“I think we will be able to solve the problems that come our way. And gradually, traditional attitudes about sexuality and marriage in China are sure to change.”
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Hahahahaha but seriously I had to post this. I can't stand gyms that have a dress code, lifting half naked is the cats pajamas.Today I did heavy heavy curls, two armed 65 lbs up to 155 and then all the way back down
Because Vampire Strippers Must Die, of course! See the trailer after the jump ...
Long before shows like Glee and Modern Family, sitcoms in the 1970s and 1980s were slowly breaking ground and bringing gay visibility to American television programming.
Writer Matt Baume has been combing through sitcoms to figure out when homosexuals stopped being a scary threat and started becoming real people with real lives and emotions.
Featured in the video are clips from Three’s Company, M*A*S*H, Cheers, All in the Family, The Paul Lynde Show, Golden Girls, and Soap.
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It was only a matter of time before a parody of the Stonewall trailer controversy made its way online.
Zeroing in on the perceived whitewashing and ciswashing of the historic gay rights event, this alternative trailer pulls no punches and aims to group Stonewall with director Roland Emmerich’s other “cinematic disasters” such as Independence Day and 2012.
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Last month, a gay couple seeking a marriage license in Kentucky’s Rowan County went up against Christian soldier/county clerk Kim Davis. It didn’t go so well.
“It was something I had prayed and fasted over,” Davis said later under oath. “It wasn’t a spur of the moment decision.”
David Vincent Moore and his fiancé returned this month with the knowledge that U.S. District Judge David Bunning wrote that Davis “is refusing to recognize the legal force of U.S. Supreme Court jurisprudence in performing her duties” and her “religious convictions cannot excuse her from performing the duties that she took an oath to perform as Rowan County Clerk.”
Davis was absent when they returned — the official story is she’s on vacation. But that didn’t stop her from blocking the couple as they again attempted to exercise their legal rights.
A deputy clerk can be heard citing Davis’ decision to go against the federal judge’s order, and in the end they’re met with that dreaded line “there’s nothing that can be done.”
“People are cruel, and this is wrong, and that’s how it is,” Moore says to news cameras before exiting the building.
Get ready to LOL because this new Stonewall trailer parody is seriously funny.
In case you haven’t heard, people are pretty pissed about the trailer for Roland Emmerich’s new Stonewall film, which hits theaters this September. The main assessment has been that the preview whitewashes gay history by centering around a caucasian, cis-gender male rather than the trans people and people of color who were actually at the Stonewall Inn during the time of the 1969 riots.
Now, Brooklyn-based comedian Heather Dockray has remade the trailer to reflect people’s criticisms, as well as remixed it with some of Emmerich’s cinematic masterpieces, including the disaster movies 2012, Independence Day, Godzilla and The Day After Tomorrow.
Check out the hilarious trailer below…
In another mind-boggling case of conservative rationale, or lack thereoff, Bryan Fischer declared that if gays are successful in overturning the gay adoption ban in Mississippi, it’ll be like “imposing slavery on the south,” reports Right Wing Watch:
“Ladies and gentlemen. That is just a form of tyranny. When you compel people to do things contrary to their will, contrary to their conscience, that’s slavery as well as tyranny. So you think about it, who’s bringing slavery back to the south? Who’s bringing slavery back to the Confederate States of America? It’s the homosexual lobby. When you compel people to provide services against their will, that is involuntary servitude, that is slavery. I submit to you that it is the homosexual lobby that’s single-handedly bringing slavery back to the Confederate States of America.”
Mississippi adopted a straight-forward law forbidding same-sex couples from adopting back in 2000; on Wednesday, civil rights lawyers filed a suit challenging the last gay adoption ban in the nation.
Watch Fischer lament about the potential “enslavement,” of the south if the adoption ban is overturned, below:
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|Philip R. Williams (left), Kathryn G. Knott (middle) and Kevin J. Harrigan (right)|
Reports say the District Attorney's office has offered all three alleged assailants plea deals but has so far refused to make the details public. It is unknown whether the agreements would allow the three to avoid prison time and walk free.
Prosecutor Michael Barry told Philly Gay News this week that the continuance request was granted because "there are still some discussions regarding a non-trial disposition ongoing."
The three accused - Kevin Harrigan, Kathryn Knott and Philip Williams - will be back in court on September 17th to face charges of aggravated assault, simple assault and conspiracy.
From the Facebook page of high school senior Dalton Maldonado.
Earlier today, after receiving many good wishes and lots of support from all over the country, I received a call from the superintendent of schools. He told me that I was in the annual fifteen times, and that they may have over looked my senior basketball picture.
He went on to say that they were going to make a new annual and he hoped I knew they were so proud of me.
However, here is the picture that should have been in the yearbook, along with the rest of the senior basketball players!
They took Outsports’ first article about my experience and swept it under the rug, as if the harassment and humiliation never happened!
I refuse to let this happen again! I was a senior point guard who had played for three years, and I was even in the center of the team picture. I don't care if I was in other parts 100 times, my individual picture wasn't in there!
I find it unbelievable that their “investigation” took less than one whole school day and once again they're just letting it go!
I will not stop fighting this. No one deserves this, and I'll make sure no other LGBT teen in Floyd Co has to face this type of discrimination!
Maldonado was the starting point guard for his high school basketball team. After he came out as gay, the school left his picture out of a two-page spread in the year book.
The school claims it was an oversight.
Ahead of Pope Francis’ visit to Philadelphia next month and a Vatican synod on family matters in October, some 470,000 individuals have signed an online petition urging the church leader to condemn homosexual unions and the “hedonistic propaganda” of the “decades-long sexual revolution.”
Among those who signed the petition: Rick Santorum, Former U.S. Ambassador to the U.N. Commission on Human Rights Armando Valladares, Archbishop of the Military Services Rev. Timothy Broglio, CitizenLink CEO Tom Minnery, and Family Research Council Senior Fellow Peter Sprigg.
The Filial Appeal on the Future of the Family, launched by a group describing itself as an alliance of lay Catholics and pro-Life organisations, has also secured the backing of more than 100 senior clerics, including many bishops from the developing world and American cardinal Raymond Burke, an arch-conservative who has been sidelined within the Vatican hierarchy since Francis was elected two years ago.
The petition claims that a first synod held last year had caused, “widespread confusion arising from the possibility that a breach has been opened within the Church that would accept adultery — by permitting divorced and then civilly remarried Catholics to receive Holy Communion — and would virtually accept even homosexual unions when such practices are categorically condemned as being contrary to divine and natural law.”
Read the full anti-gay appeal letter here.
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